Dealing With Failure


Matthew Brosnan, Author

Failure is a tough fact sometimes. People deal with failure in all different ways, some resort to anger, and some remain calm and brush it off. These are just the opposite ends of a wide spectrum of ways that people will cope with failure.

Don’t Put Your Emotions Aside

To help deal with failure and not beat yourself up when faced with it is to allow yourself to feel sadness instead of repressing these feelings. Some people might want to bottle up their emotions and simply move on. This can only work in so many situations that it is not healthy to simply move on. A healthier option for dealing with these emotions is to process the failure by allowing yourself to fully relax and feel those emotions. This will allow your mind to fully process the situation and move on from the tough situation.

Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself is a crucial component of self-care when dealing with failure. Give yourself the same care you frequently show others once you have admitted that you are going through something painful. Instead of judging and repressing your emotions, by forgiving yourself, you can show yourself love, care, and understanding. Given that people are flawed by nature and will occasionally make mistakes, this strategy will help you overcome your emotions. You can accept you’re human and the fact that things don’t always turn out the way we’d like by showing yourself love instead of beating yourself up. In the end, you might even want to try again after you accept your failure and now can succeed with your new mindset.


Even though it hurts, we may develop and learn from our past mistakes, you can ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?” This will help you not to repeat the same mistake and learn to be successful in the future. It can be beneficial to view failure from a positive attitude rather than a negative attitude. When you have a fixed mindset, you think that your abilities are unchangeable no matter what you do. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is the reassurance that your abilities and traits may advance and improve. Even though it can be hard, failures are an inevitable part of life, and learning to deal with them and moving forwards is a beneficial tool to have in life.