Dealing With Change

Dealing With Change

Emily Messana , Author

Why Do I Struggle With Change 

Humans struggle with change at times because we learn to adapt to consistency. At times, our brains go directly to seeing change as a negative, even if it could have a really positive effect on our life. These feelings can influence later thoughts on the change in your life. Although some changes may seem bad, there are ways to learn to view changes as a positive effect on your life. 


The first step to dealing with change is understanding and accepting the change in your life. Once you understand the change, you can learn to find benefits from it. Accepting the change is important because there are many things in life that you cannot change. Although it may be difficult and it might be hard to find the positives in a situation, it can be helpful to know that changes aren’t always bad. It can also be helpful to reframe your thinking and try to figure out why this change is causing you to be upset. There may be a deeper problem that might not always be directly related to the change. 

Coping Techniques 

There are many different ways to deal with change, so you have to find the ones that work best for you. One way to cope with changes is to plan ahead. If you know that there is a big change coming into your life, it can be helpful to address the situation and learn how it will affect you. For example, if you are going for a job interview, it may be beneficial to consider both outcomes and how it will affect your life. This can help avoid any stress coming from the outcomes. Another way to cope with changes is to find parts of your life that have normalcy. If you can keep some routines in your life constant, this can help your life not be so disrupted when change occurs. Another way to cope with changes in your life is to exercise and keep yourself active. Keeping your body moving and actively helps you to feel better and not see things as negative. One last way to cope with changes in your life is to realize that even good change can cause stress. Sometimes changes seem negative just because you are stressing about them and what will happen. For example, if you graduate or get a new job, it can seem like a negative change because it is causing you stress but really it is a new opportunity and will have a positive impact on your life.